Update, update, who has my update???

Oh but things have been chaotic around here lately.
I will be working on a big update!!! Soon!! This week, in the next few days! hehe!

Forty-Five lessons of life

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24.. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

Happy Independence Day!!

I hope you all get your sparkle on tonight and get to see an amazing show in the sky!

RIP King of Pop!

So it took me a few days to decide what I was going to say about the death of Michael Jackson. In the last years of his life, it was the travesty of his personal life that everyone knew about. The accusations, the trial, the odd behavior out of a man that had spent almost his entire life in the spotlight.

But I think, overall, that the music speaks for itself. The man will forever leave an imprint on musical history with the amazing music that he released in his lifetime. I tried to find a good video to use since my fave song ("The way you make me feel") has a stalkerish video. So I'm going with the legendary Motown performance of "Billie Jean" when Michael Jackson introduced the infamous moonwalk.



And because I love them...New Kids on the Block's tribute to Michael Jackson with their rendition of "I'll be there"

RIP to an Angel

It was with much sadness today that I heard that 70's/80's icon Farrah Fawcett passed away after a long battle with cancer.




I grew up with Charlie's Angels and loved everything about that show. And Jill Monroe was my favorite Angel. She was a lot kooky in real life, well in the publicized version of her real life anyway, but she was always fascinating. And it was so sad to hear that she lost the fight this morning. She was fierce in life and if they reair her "diary' of her battle with cancer, you should all check it out. Have your kleenex handy, though, it was devastating and sad.

RIP Farrah! Your star will shine on in peace now.


(Yes I know Michael Jackson passed away as well and it is just as sad, but I wanted to show some respect for Farrah.)

On my soap box!

I usually try to keep this light and fluffy but a situation occurred today that has me just in a state of anger and I have to get it off my chest.

A couple of the girls from work and I went to lunch at Carl's Jr. today and when we walked in there was a couple of caregivers there with their adult mentally handicapped charges. We didn't think anything of it, placed our orders, and grabbed a seat. The lady caregiver ushered two of the mobile adults out the door and left them wandering the parking lot while she came back in to get the man in the wheelchair. We made a comment about how irresponsible and went back to chatting. The lone caregiver was in the restaurant still with a gentleman that was probably in his late 30's. The man was getting agitated and started to yank at his hair in frustration. Now honestly we didn't see what he did that was so bad, but suddenly the caregiver jumps across the table and grabs the man in a chokehold, knocking him to the ground. He sat on him and started to rudely berate him. He finally climbed off of him, yanking him up by his shirt and yelling at him to pick up his belongings that were dropped, yelling at him to not look at an elderly woman walking in (thus scaring her), and to get out to the parking lot. We commented amongst ourselves about how unprofessional that was handled and how the caregiver was acting like a bully but didn't think much of it.

It didn't end there, of course. In the parking lot, the male caregiver and the client had another "altercation" of the man still in a state of agitation not wanting to get in the van. Th ecaregiver again put him in a chokehold and slammed him down on the asphalt, sitting on him. He didn't stop there, though. He pulled this gentleman's pants down and proceeded to SPANK him! Yes, he did! He spanked this handicapped man that was in his care! And when the man started to fight, he began to punch him. We were just stunned watching this happen. The female caregiver got the man in the wheelchair in the van and opened the doors for the other two to get in and pulled out her phone to call someone. How utterly irresponsible of her! If the other patients had become agitated over what was going on there would have been no way the caregivers could have controlled what was going on. The male caregiver finally got up and again pulled the man up by his shirt. He kept making the patient put his arms up in the air and would poke him in the sides before making him hug him before he would be allowed to get in the van. This had gone on for at least ten minutes and then another fifteen minutes with the caregivers on the phone doing an incident report. The male caregiver was having his "wounds" documented by the female and had bloody knuckles. We had had enough and Annette stopped him to ask where he worked and what his name was. He only gave up where he worked and that was it.

We filed complaints with the company and Annette finally got the director on the phone before we left work to tell what had happened. The two caregivers were being suspended while an investigation was going on. The biggest issue was there was absolutely NO need to take this man to the ground in such a manner. He was agitated, he wasn't making any threatening moves, he was pulling at his hair to express himself. There was nothing that should have ever told the caregiver it was alright to humiliate his patient in the form he did by terrorizing him in front of everyone and spanking him. I was so disturbed over the whole situation that I just didn't know what to do. I have never seen someone treated in such a bullying and degrading manner and to know it was a person that couldn't even defend themselves made it even worse.

I hope this institute sticks to what they told Annette today and the caregivers are not allowed to take patients out like this, if they are even allowed to keep their jobs.

Another shot of Tyson!

There is nothing that I love more than when he covers his eyes when he sleeps. And he gets in a deep sleep where he snores and drools.